Tyroper was very kind to pass on to me this golden award. I have one just like it in silver. I think it’s a trend to mix silver and gold jewelry, but I could be behind since I don’t usually wear jewelry. Thank you, Ty. I am glad you like what you read here. I know awards usually stop here when it comes with me. I am horribly lazy at collecting gems to give the award away to. I also fell into the belief of thinking of them as chain letters. Well, I have figured out for myself in the last 30 seconds of composing this that it’s a load of crock crock of shit (I was tired when this post began) made up by horribly lazy people like myself who do not want to take the time to appreciate and be appreciated. If you want to be professional, you can relate this as to being at one of those mega conventions and your booth only has 250 favors to pass out and network. WordPress makes blogging a social network. They are tricky like that. It’s old school to be a Dooce. And harder than ever since platforms like this. I write on a whim. I am serious in saying that I am horribly lazy. There are people who research and rewrite and edit and stew over their posts before making them live. Freaky shit, I know. But if you can do that, you can pass around an award to make someone else’s day a little brighter and to let them see you care further than, “yo this shit you just posted here, this shit is tight yo.” Or [insert clicking like button here]. Lazy freaks. Long story short, the award is not dying here today.
Here are the rules of the award:
1.) Display the award logo on your blog.
2.) Link back to the person who nominated you.
3.) State 7 things about yourself.
4.) Nominate 15 bloggers for this award.
5.) Notify those bloggers of the nomination by linking to one of their specific posts so that they get notified by ping back.
7 things you need* to know
- I dig fruity baby food. Especially banana.
- Most everything I complain about with other people I have been guilty of myself.
- I talk more shit about the people I love than I do of the people I loathe. Case in point: Alice. If you keep up with me you’ll notice once the friendship took a momentary pause that I thought was a forever pause, I stopped talking about her. Exception: My mother. You don’t talk shit about the people who brought you into this world and can easily take you out. Exception to the exception: My father.
- I need to learn how to break big goals into smaller goals so I stop the cycle of thinking it’s impossible and giving up.
- I can recognize a lot of things I need to do and because of this I think I don’t need therapy, but question if that means the exact opposite.
- I am terrible at planning. I don’t like to feel locked in and if I fail, I would disappoint others which would cause me further disappointment.
- I have never been married and I am not sure if I ever want to be. Some will take this as me having a negative opinion on marriage. That’s not the case. Some may take this as me having a fear of commitment. It’s not a fear more than it is I have had more than a few serious relationships, I barely make it to 2 years how the hell could I do until death do you part? I don’t believe in divorce for myself. It happens, but if I marry that man better know he is stuck for life. Unless he does something catastrophic then my ass will be at the court quicker than you can say flies on shit.
15 Blog Nominees
1. AliceAtWonderland
2. NotQuiteAlice
3. CrankyGiraffe
4. TishMoon
5. Jet @ SustainablySinlgeParenting
6. WhiskeyInTheAM
7. ExileFromHysteria
8. Rarasaur
9. J.E Lattimer
10. FrontRangeScribbles
11. MerBear74
12. Rohan7things
13. Jaschmehl
14. TeenyBikini
15. ABoldPerch
This is in no way an attempt to show favoritism and I want it known that I love you all. You are all inspiring, but it didn’t say infinite and one of my things I need to learn is to accept being limited so this kind of works for me. One small step to most, one huge leap for me.
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*need is very relative here and can be replaced with, “Could have lived the rest of your life very happily without knowing anything on this list.” But that’s just too much to type. Plus, need is persuasive. It pays to persuade. (Not really unless you’re in the biz. Biz example: hooking.)
Thanks so much for the nomination, Combat Babe. I’m totally honored.
You deserve it, doll!
Thank you CB! You are the bomb.
You’re welcome, MB! xo
I’m honored to be on YOUR list. Thank you!
You’re welcome!!
Thanks so much Sarah
On your number 6, try to realise that failure is really no big deal, the fact is that the people who’ve had the most “successes” are the ones who also have the most failures.
Of course if big plans aren’t your thing then that’s cool too, you determine you own criteria for success. And in that case certainly don’t give yourself a hard time about it, just get into not planning, who says you have to make plans?
All the best!
Rohan.
You can be my therapist! I’ll just have daily sessions reading your blog as I think I have only touched the tip of the iceberg. You are so very smart at knowing exactly what to say. I think I need to study you so I can pick that up.
Thanks for being who you are.
Aww, thanks for the really lovely comment
*blush* Hey be sure to grab The 7 Things while it’s free for 2 days: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00AVKZYGY
It’s full of all the things that have helped me so much over the years
And you too Sarah, keep being yourself and keep writing!
Rohan.
You’re a sweetheart. Thanks so much!
P.S. I “recognize a lot of things I need to do” as well. Therapy helps me to address those things and actually get them done. Like packing our “Go Bag”. I knew I needed to get paperwork together, a spare cell phone, a change of clothing for everyone, etc. Just in case we needed to get out and get away ASAP. I was totally stuck though and couldn’t assemble the bag. A bunch of things kept me from doing it: not enough time, not really wanting to “protect” myself from him out of guilt/habit, being superstitious that having such a bag would make its use necessary, all sorts of bullsh*t. Well…my therapist helped me to re-frame the idea of having the bag as not just for my protection from him. What if there was a house fire? Some fast approaching natural disaster? Wouldn’t I want such a bag assembled just in case? After we discussed it that way, I was able to pack the bag. It seemed so simple. I knew I needed to do it, but…talking it through and distancing myself from the emotion surrounding the task really helped me to do it. Sorry for the lengthy example that you probably cannot even relate to, lol, it’s the only example I can think of at the moment. All the others are too convoluted.
I love you’re lengthy example and I can relate. It’s about being stuck no matter what the cause, whether it’s yourself or an outside force. I relate everything to lyrics and music. The one that always comes to mind when I hear an example like yours or am in my own predicament is,
should I stay or should I go now
if I go there will be trouble
if I stay it will be double
so come on and let me know
should I stay or should I go
For your situation, getting your focus away from him was a clever idea. When Jorge and I broke up, I couldn’t focus on any of the negative, it was all on him and what I felt when I was with him. I moved to a fro a couple of times until it was done, and unfortunately he was done before me. That sucked. I recognize now everything I ignored being with him, but it’s still hard to put that above what we had when there wasn’t that. It’s hard to see that there never was the wonderful without the crap. And this is almost 7 years later. On a more humorous note, my psych once told me during a session that, “men suck shit.” So when I need a little laugh I think of that. My psych is a man.
I can’t believe you nominated me, CB ! =) You are always so kind, thank you ! I like your list, 2 and 3 ring true to me as well. =) I hear you about the marriage thing; some do, some don’t, you are smart not to rush into a serious commitment. Thanks again, have an AWESOME day ! =)
You’re welcome, darling! & you, too!
Ok, have this entry started, now have to figure out how to underline blogs and get them to link ! =) Told you, I am SO new at this. =)
Its been nice to follow the people on this and meet some other fab people along the way.
Thank you for the nomination, you are to kind
Congratulations & thank you so much once again! I truly appreciate it! Keep up the great work over there & I will attend to this as soon as possible!
Thank you, oh combative one!
#7 on your list is a big one for me – I have been married (note the past tense). And I don’t recommend it to anyone, ever! It exists in complete denial of the one constant in human nature: Change. It is a ridiculous and meaningless legal arrangement to make us all easily taxed and tracked my the government. How’s that for combative!
Hah! I love this. Maybe that’s why marriage gets all those tax breaks… hmm I think I am actually going to have to do a little research into this.
Aw! Thank you hun !! Much Love. <3.
Re chain mail: I’ve gone through the same thought process and come to the same conclusion. It’s fun, sweaty blog love! Congratulations.
Thank you, kindly.
Wanted to let you know I got this and appreciate it. I’ll try to work a post in. I mean, talk about myself again? Me? Thanks.
Many thanks for your kindness. Much to success to you. Cheers!